This is all new to us the whole DD thing in our marriage it almost seems like a game to me. I don't particularly want it to be a game but not sure how to go about asking for more. I mean I asked for this in the first place after being married for so long we've gotten quite complacent. Well I should say he has in dealing with my behavior at times. The last year or so I found out somethings about myself that put alot of how I felt about me personally into perspective; frankly it made alot of things make sense finally.
So a few month ago I brought the subject up after finding out about DD on the internet. I think he thought I had lost my mind and really I felt maybe he was right. What woman who is happy in her marriage would even ask for this? It's not like I hadn't asked for him to take control long ago I think he thought I was joking. The few times I had suggested to him that he should just spank me for an offense I had committed instead of getting angry and having an all out war over whatever was going on at that moment but it was all done in fun. I didn't know how to tell him what kinks were in my head from along time ago. I wanted more. I needed more!! I've always fantasized about being spanked, being controlled and not in a demeaning way. Apparently, its not just something that I think about on a daily basis its all over the internet woman just like me. The more we broached the subject the more appealling it became to him but I had to keep asking does this make you feel weird cause I don't want you to be uncomforable in this at all. He has a pretty bad past and he was mainly on the butt end of discipline in his life I didn't want to cause him any pain whatsoever.
Plus we have children and I would never want to subject them to anything that would damage them and be unhealthy its not like we ever have spanked them in their life. Kids and spanking just don't go together in our minds its frightening, it makes them feel less of themselves and really what kid asks for that. There are so many other things to take away now days that do just as well for discipline in our house. So before anyone says anything about our lifestyle we don't spank our kids and he doesn't spank me when they are here or are awake.
There is just something about life that gets me cranky and depressed and I can't explain it but a spanking does me good. (haha kinda like milk). I trust him to treat me right or I would have never asked him to do this for me or even be a willing participant. I am not abused he does not beat me he spanks me but most of the times when I ask. I don't want to ask its not the same. I don't need a father even though I sometimes call him daddy its definitely not the same so you pervs shut up already its just a term of endearment for me. So we will see where this takes us its good so far but we have along way to go any good advice from you married women or men in DD marriages would be much appreciated.
